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Reflection- Get What You Want By Daring To Dream Big - re convo with Debbi Dachinger

“Without accountability, we can’t accomplish all the things that we need to accomplish to get what we want.” -Shirley Owens

Today, Shirley reflects on two important aspects of getting what you want: networking and accountability. She explains how utilizing your own network can give you assuredness and trust in who you are hiring, while honoring them as the experts they are in their field. Shirley is also big on accountability. Accountability breeds results. Don’t miss out on today’s episode.


01:48 Honor Your Network

05:00 Be Accountable To Yourself


How To Accelerate In Getting What You Want. Listen in as @SfbaldwinOwens shares two of the most important things you need in order to reach your goal.


  • 03:29 “Think about your network and who you can utilize in that to build whatever it is that you’re trying to build. Don’t be afraid … treat them the experts that they are.” -Shirley Owens

  • 06:33 “Without accountability, we can’t accomplish all the things that we need to accomplish to get what we want.” -Shirley Owens

Connect With Debbi:

Debbi Dachinger is a media personality and Media Visibility Expert who has been interviewed on over 1000 media outlets. She's a syndicated award-winning Radio and Podcast Host, a Keynote Speaker, a Certified Coach, and author of three international best-selling books. She’s also been recently nominated for two People's Choice Podcast Awards. As a Media Visibility Authority, Debbi coaches on how to write a page-turner book and teaches The Ultimate Visibility Formula- How to be Interviewed on Radio and Podcast Shows in 60 Days or Less. Now in its 12th year, Debbi hosts the Dare To Dream Podcast. Her passion is helping her clients become distinguished go-to experts in their chosen field. Here is a link to sign up for Debbi’s Ultimate Visibility Formula:


Shirley Owens: Hello, and welcome back to Get What You Want Podcast. I am a little under the weather today. My voice is a bit scratchy, but hopefully it's new and exciting for you guys. So I wanted to talk today about my conversation with Debbi this week, and we covered two things that have stuck out for me. So I wanted to talk about both of them.

One, how are we using our network? Because last week, Scott and I talked about networking and how important that was, so I thought that'd be a good segue into this week about talking about how we use our network. Do we give everything of ourselves to them for free? Do we expect things back for free? Or do we exchange services? One of the things that Debbi and I talked about, and that I do is I like to hire my network for the things that I need. And that's not that I don't share, like myself, I'm super happy to give free a lot, and I have served, and given a lot of free advice, or sessions, or whatever because I love doing that. But there's also some value in being hired. So I like to honor and value my network if I can to become one of their clients or to have, to use their services, whether it be, I mean, it doesn't even matter, even landscaping, house cleaning, and then all of these other services that we use, book coach, programs, life coaching, all the things that we could possibly need.

So recently I hired one of my friends to come to Arizona, she lives in California, to come to Arizona and helped me start my podcast. And there were a ton of things that needed to be done. And she's always so good about giving me advice, and in fact I have a few friends, a lot actually, friends in the podcast world who have given me so much advice, and I am so grateful for that. But this weekend I needed to really get a ton of things done, and I thought, you know what? I'm going to hire her. She came out here, we spent three days together, and we work probably 30 hours in those days, and we got a ton of stuff done. And I felt like it was awesome because she honored me as a client and I honored her as an expert, and we were able to get a ton of stuff done, and it was so worth it. And the reason that I hired her was because I trust her because she is part of my network. She's one of my good friends. And like I said, it wasn't that she wouldn't have done it for free because she probably would have, but it was really felt good to me to honor her in that place.

So think about your network and who you can utilize in that to build whatever it is that you're trying to build. And don't be afraid to hire people, or to join their programs, or to treat them as the experts that they are.

“Think about your network and who you can utilize in that to build whatever it is that you’re trying to build. Don’t be afraid … treat them the experts that they are.” -Shirley Owens

I know that I have a ton of my friends who have done that for me, and it's a wonderful place because how are we going to referrals? And how can we refer out? And there is this network of, personally most of my business network and my personal network are one, and I have a really good balance of separation between the two, and I think it's easy to do that. So that was one of the things I want to talk about because I think it's really helpful to look within your network within the people that you trust, to see how you can utilize them in your life in getting what you want, and then honor them by hiring them to do that for you.

The other thing I want to talk about, which is kind of different, but we definitely branched off into this as accountability. Again, we're in the new year, accountability is a huge thing. We talk a lot about being accountable to others, finding an accountability coach, or a partner, or a friend, or relative, or just someone to be accountable to, and I do love that, and I think that that's super important that we have that in our lives.

The other thing that I've been thinking a lot lately, and you're going to learn more about it in the upcoming week or two of episodes is being accountable to yourself. I think it's super important to be able to look at yourself as an accountability coach. I did this when I started a diet, a couple of years ago. I started the diet before I knew that I could, like that I had the food to do it with. So the first day I starved, and I talked about this in my next episodes, so I don't want to go too much into it. But what happened was I was home a lot alone, and I didn't really have anyone to be accountable to except for myself. I mean, like my husband is there, like I could've cheated at any time. And I remember other people saying, Oh, I could never do a diet because I'm home so much, or I'm alone so much that I would cheat. Well, I thought about that during that time, and I was not going to cheat on myself. So I held myself accountable for that, and it really plays into a lot of things. Like I've taught that to my kids, and to clients, and friends that when we're accountable to ourselves, wow, it's crazy because that makes us be accountable 100% of the time.

So that was just something, as we're building this year, as we're building stages, and building tools, and adding to our box of how to get what you want, I want you to start thinking about accountability. Where are you going to get that from? Are you going to reach outside of yourself, which is perfectly fine to have accountability coaches, it's so helpful. But are you also going to look inside and see how you can support yourself in that area? Because without accountability, we can't accomplish all the things we need to accomplish to get what we want.

“Without accountability, we can’t accomplish all the things that we need to accomplish to get what we want.” -Shirley Owens

So I'm going to leave those two things with you today. I love you all. I hope you enjoyed my conversation with Debbi, and next week's going to be a great conversation, so have a great weekend, and I'll see you next week.

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